A Flogging Request

I am seeking an encounter with another Sacred Intimate. The following is my request.

My intention is to thoroughly experience sub-space and have my endorphins stimulated. This is my request. It can be adapted to meet your needs as we negotiate. This is an opportunity for you to experience Dom-space as I intend to give my body, mind and heart to you for no more than several hours.

I would like to begin by removing my clothes. I would like you to remain clothed for a while as a symbol of power over me. This will help me establish your power in my mind. As they do in PSI, I would like to be on my knees with my hands behind my back as I rest my head in your crotch. I would like several minutes like this to give myself time to surrender to you and to experience myself submitting thoroughly to your control.

Once that is established. I can either keep my eyes downward or meet your gaze as you see fit. Then I would like to be blindfolded. I would like you to explore my body at this point in any way that you choose. Gentle touch will get my endorphins flowing before the flogging. Then I would like to be positioned to be flogged.

I want you to be comfortable, so be as clothed or not as you like. Don't overheat. Take care of your knees, etc.

I generally like thuddier floggers, but we can explore any kind except single tail. Front or back is fine, chest, back, thighs and butt cheeks are OK. You will need to guide my head back if you work on my chest to avoid hitting my chin.

I would like permission to tell you harder or softer during the first half so that you can become familiar with my limits. Then it would be nice if you could help me stretch those limits. Reassure me and encourage me if I seem uncomfortable. As long as I feel the love in your swings, it will be good. Remind me to surrender and go into the sensation - the pain. Remind me to breathe.

There is a health situation at home. Someone near to my partner is having a difficult time and the future is unknown. I would like to use this experience to explore surrender so that I can carry it into my healing work. I am open to experiencing emotional release as I fall into acceptance of what is through your strokes. I encourage you to use my request as a suggestion only, as the greatest gift you could give to me would be to feel your power thoroughly. Unleash yourself. I can take whatever you see fit to give.

Ejaculation

I let myself ejaculate during yesterday's orgasmic yoga practice. It's hard to maintain the feeling of being in love with yourself. It's easy to fall back into unconsciousness where the only goal is physical pleasure.

Yesterday, I loved myself physically. It was my joy to give myself pleasure. Near the end, I was telling the mirror to "open your heart to me." I realized in that moment that I had the capacity to be in love with myself. I felt that deep desire within my heart to be completely connected with myself. I opened my heart, poured my love out on myself, and ejaculated.

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Orgasmic relaxation

This mornings Orgasmic Yoga practice lead directly to the insights in today's blog post: http://blog.rexharley.com/2011/09/living-through-body.html

This morning's Orgasmic Yoga was not broadcast on the web cam. My intention was to relax. I have a lot of tension in my right side - my neck and shoulder. My practice has a slower, less rushed pace. I was intentionally relaxing my neck and shoulder as I rubbed my penis.

There were times when I would become excited - and erotically tense. I would then breathe, slow down, and relax into the sensations. I found myself experiencing more pleasure without tripping over ejaculation.

There's a sensation that I can't describe. It comes up as ejaculation begins, like a pleasurable tingling - deep inside. Today, I felt as though I was able to dip down into that sensation and pull out a handful - allowing my whole body to experience it, but without ejaculating. I will try those relaxation sessions more often.

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"Personal" Lubricant

Yesterday during my Orgasmic Yoga practice, I avoided lube and used the loose skin on my dick in combination with my PA (Prince Albert) to stimulate myself. After fifteen or twenty minutes, I  built up enough pre-cum to use it as lubricant. I love the idea and sensation of masturbating with my own juices. It's so slippery and slick and light, and it's all me.

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Aneros Ass Play

The instructions on how to use the aneros that you get when you order it are great and they are worth pursuing in their own right, but I want to describe how to use the aneros if you just don't get how butt ply can feel good.

First, give your butt a light enema to clear away any feces from the rectum. Don't do a deep cleansing unless you want to spend hours in the bathroom. Also stay away from the Fleet's since they have irritating chemicals. I'll post more on cleaning out before play in the future.

Have some silicon lube (I prefer Gun Oil) and some towels nearby for cleanup. Then, get naked and make yourself comfortable. Prop your butt up on a pillow so that when you insert the aneros, it won't be resting on the bed. Also put a pillow under your head for comfort. Apply some lube to your anus. Feel free to be liberal, but avoid getting lube on your perineum (taint) as this would affect how the aneros works. Apply some lube to the aneros. Gently insert it into your anus. When your butt begins to pull it in, stop pushing and let the aneros find it's own resting place. The solid disc will be resting on your perineum.

Now, begin masturbating. Go slow or you will cum fast. Use conscious breathing to accept pleasure without ejaculation for at least a little while. Focus on the sensations of your butt. Your anus will be contracting as you masturbate. This will make the aneros move in and out by itself. Feel it pressing gently against your prostate. Feel the little ribs rubbing against your anal sphincter. This rubbing has the potential to feel as tingly as your cock does when you're getting ready to cum. These two sensations combined with conscious breathing can lead to orgasmic feelings by themselves. You may need to stop stroking your dick to feel the orgasmic sensations coming from your ass. Move your ass. Rock it up and down. Put your legs in the air. Press down with your feet. Every ass movement will enhance the pleasure. Eventually, allow yourself to cum. The aneros will fuck you while you cum, intensifying your pleasure.

I firmly believe that this is a great technique for people who “don't get anal pleasure” to experience what is possible. If you keep at it, you may get the urge to use more toys and find new ways to experience ass pleasure.

Love From Within

I would love it if you each did something for me. Once a week (or more), pleasure yourself in front of a mirror consciously with breath. Do more than jerk off - touch your sides, thighs and chest. Look into your eyes in the mirror. Do this for five minutes or half an hour. Cum if you want or don't cum and hold onto your energy. This will make me very happy.

Doing this is like putting money into an erotic bank account. The more time you generate heat and pleasure, the larger your bank account balance. The less often you make withdrawals by ejaculating, the larger your balance. It can be a little uncomfortable allowing this energy to grow, but the more you do, the more erotically powerful and loving you will be.

At some point, you'll recognize (if you haven't already) that you are doing this because you literally love yourself - and you will laugh. Sometimes when you look into your eyes in the mirror, you will see me looking back at you with love.

Bubba

I'm bigger than I remember. I think my perception of myself is changing. I am a man. My body smells masculine. I'm an adult male, full sized and attractive.

I am both masculine and feminine. I like my hairy body and my dick that gives me so much pleasure. I like my anus and prostate and love taking others within me. I like being authentically nude. I like the comfort and colors of a dress. I like wearing a kilt and letting my genitals hang freely.

Bubba is pure innocence and authenticity. He is true to his feelings, and expresses himself freely - even if it's considered inappropriate in modern society. Bubba is love. Bubba knows no shame.

I've seen a trend as I explore my orgasmic yoga practice that's related. I've played with infantilism - curling up on my back in a fetal position, sucking my thumb. As I play in the temple, I often feel like a child playing in his playroom. This is my eternal erotic playroom where I am king, where I am Rex.