WARNING: Fisting is an advanced
sexual act. Do NOT attempt this until someone more experienced has
shown you how to do this safely. This is not for novices.
Now that you've done all this
preparation - spending hours douching in the bathroom, mixing up the
JLube, getting the underpads, setting up the space - anticipation has
built up. You want to finally slam that fist up that butt, but that
won't be very effective.
You've reached the point of playing
with your butt. No matter what you've seen in the movies, this calls
for patience. If you're never had a hand in your butt,you may not
make it this time, either. There are some non-material things that
have to be mastered.
First, you need to trust the
person you're playing with. The one being fisted is 100% in charge.
Stop means stop. Both need to agree the receiver calls all the shots.
The giver is there only to serve, to pay close attention to what
gives pleasure and avoiding causing any harm.
Second, you need to completely and
utterly relax. You've cleaned yourself out, so now you can completely
relax your anus, bear down, or whatever you feel guided to do in
I suggest that the top begin by
massaging the bottom to get those endorphins flowing. The bottom's
mind may be willing while his body resists. You must earn the body's
trust and beginning with a relaxing massage is a great way to start.
Include the butt in your massage. Work the cheek muscles. Run your
hand down the crack. Maybe massage for ten or fifteen minutes or
Then move on to the asshole. Get the
bottom in position on his back, on his knees, in the sling... Move
into position and savor the sight of that beautiful pucker that you
want to explore. Begin with light touch. Playfully explore. Don't
penetrate right away. Diddle with that pucker. Tickle it. Take your
time and make your bottom groan with anticipation. Find out what
Then begin with penetration. One
finger. Rotate it. Gently probe. Use plenty of lube. If you're
playing with a man, find his prostate. Use only light touch on the
prostate. A little goes a long way. After some time, try two fingers.
Try one finger on each h and. Gently stretch the hole open with those
two fingers. Playfully explore.
Use as many fingers as the bottom
wants. Explore his butt. Reach into his rectum with your fingers.
Watch his eyes as you do something new. Recognize pleasure or
discomfort and adjust accordingly.
This is probably most important. Watch
his eyes. Absorb the expression on his face. This is an extremely
intimate act. Connect with him completely. Feel what he feels. Let
your heart soften as you recognize the precious gift he is offering
by allowing you to enter him so completely.