Saturday, January 28, 2012

Fisting Part 2: Hygiene

WARNING: Fisting is an advanced sexual act. Do NOT attempt this until someone more experienced has shown you how to do this safely. This is not for novices.

If you want to be fisted, it's a common courtesy to clean yourself up ahead of time. I'm referring to an enema, although it's common to hear it called douching. If your taking someone's hand inside your body, you are turning your rectum into a sex channel, so clear out any unwanted obstructions ahead of time.

The depth of your douche depends on the circumstances and the type of play you want. If someone is waiting in the next room, do not take a deep enema. It could take hours to do a deep cleaning. Instead take a couple of cups of water at a time without bending over. In this case, you just want to avoid any unpleasant surprises. Cleaning the rectum is sufficient for shallow play.

If you expect to go for depth or want greater peace of mind, spend a few hours to clean up. Use a water bottle style enema, bend over or lay on your left side to allow the water to flow deep. Evacuate the water. Wait and repeat until the water consistently flows clear. Take a longer break and repeat the process. Stay near the bathroom so you don't have an accident. If you feel daring, involve a partner in your preparation. This is an especially intimate act that can increase the level of trust during the main event of fisting.

After cleanings, have some yogurt with active cultures to replace your supply of good bacteria needed for digestion. Active cultures are key.

Consider increasing your fiber a few days before cleaning out. It will make it much easier and more effective.

Part 2: Hygiene <-- You are here

Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Fisting Part 1: Lubrication

 WARNING: Fisting is an advanced sexual act. Do NOT attempt this until someone more experienced has shown you how to do this safely. This is not for novices.

This is the first in a series of blog entries regarding fisting.

I'm familiar with two main lubricants: JLube and Crisco. It's also possible to use other lubricants like something silicon based, but JLube and Crisco are generally preferred.

Crisco stays slick, is thick, and does not dry out.

JLube is a lubricant used by vets and is water based. Since it is water based, it tends to dry out. Having a spray bottle nearby can help revive it as needed and also serves to cool irritated anuses.

Some folks have recipes for combining JLube and Crisco. Some put little pats of it in the freezer ahead of time. That makes it easier to push further past the rectum and up the large intestine. It also cools irritated tissues.

I think it's best to choose one lubricant before you begin and stick with it throughout the session, however it's also good to try out different lubes to see what works for you.

Part 1: Lubrication <-- You are here

Sunday, January 22, 2012

Leadership Photos

I went to a leadership retreat last weekend (January 13, 14 and 15 2012). I wanted to share some fun photos:


Monday, January 2, 2012

"I'm only doing this because I love you"

I've got a new blog post at The Rex Harley Experience:  A New Tool for the New year

During this morning's orgasmic yoga, I found that I wanted to hear that as I was being spanked. I had some strong emotional feelings as I was spanking myself this morning. Spanking myself felt so good an I noticed how happy it made me feel.

When you hear stories told of being spanked when growing up, you hear the spanker saying he's only doing it because he loves you. I was scared of being spanked as a child. My father was very volatile emotionally, but after a certain age, I stopped getting loving messages from him as they were replaced by messages of disappointment. Now, I want to be spanked and to be told that it's for my own good and that he's only doing it because he loves me. I want to be loved hard.

I keep myself under tight emotional control. There are times when I am feeling something strongly and I hold it back and hide it. My father always seemed so angry that I didn't want to be like him. I wanted to be in control of my emotion - like Spock on Star Trek, the opposite of my father. As a result, I lack some passion in my life.

I hope that I can begin to express my emotions more freely. Maybe part of the process will be exploring my feelings as I am being spanked out of love.

What erotic experiences might you explore to release past emotional blocks?

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